As a person who comes from a different culture, I often get lost in jokes and sarcasms due to the lack of cultural background and probably the lack of the ability to hear and understand different tones of what is said. For me, a direct way of communication is the easiest to understand.
I am not saying that jokes and sarcasms are not needed, because there are definitely place and time that they work wonderfully. In my opinion, however, indirect way of communication using them could lead to misunderstanding and confusion.
When I do psychic medium readings, I often tell my clients, “Say what you mean, mean what you say.” I frequently encounter the situations where my clients’ deceased loved ones communicate the message, especially of their love for the clients or an apology. Sometimes my clients are the one who felt things were unsaid between them and their loved ones.
Sometimes we hesitate to communicate certain things out of fears: fear to be judged, fear to be misunderstood, and fear to have an unwanted consequence. Additionally, everyone has different ways to communicate. Some are comfortable communicating directly and being blunt. Some are more comfortable in a more subtle way of communication.
When I say, “say what you mean, mean what you say,” I don’t suggest that you say what is on your mind without considering others’ feelings or consequences. Rather, I am suggesting that you say whatever you need to communicate with the best of your ability to get your point across.
It is okay for you to say, “I am upset,” when you feel mad. It is okay for you to say, “I am sad,” when you feel down. There are ways to communicate your anger and frustration without yelling at someone. There are ways to communicate your sadness without breaking down in front of others.
The point of “say what you mean, mean what you say” is to get whatever you are feeling out of your body by communicating truthfully and honestly. Any words you end up swallowing stay within you, because those are emotions not being unexpressed. I use an analogy of wanting to go to a bathroom with my clients. You can hold or ignore your need to go to a bathroom for a while, but sooner or later you need to go to release. Unsaid words and unexpressed feelings are exactly like that.
Further, if you say what you want to say and if you can live your life without leaving things unsaid, then you don’t have to regret for not communicating after your loved ones cross over.
So open up your heart and say what you want to say. Leave nothing unsaid.